Is this a strange reason for a Separation?

[lynn97]

Thanks for all of the kind words everyone.

Just out of curiousity though, what was her reaction to this?

She mostly shut down, said little and just looked upset

I'm curious about this separation. Is there an agreement about whether or not the two of you can date others while you are separated?

Yes we did say we would not have a relationship with anyone else. Unfortunately this is probably too vague for my situation. She was having an EA with one of my friends. Once I helped her realize this she decided to keep the friendship but be aware where the line was and not cross it again. They now talk more than ever before

So today was another day. I picked the kids up in the morning and went to the zoo for fathers day. I saw my wife but kept very upbeat and positive and felt really good about it. I and the kids had a great time. I kept the W out of my head and it was a great feeling.

Then when we got back she wasn't at home. I called her and told her we were home. My 4 year old was really throwing a fit and not wanting to "end daddies day" Absolutely broke my heart. She heard it and asked if she needed to come home. I told her no that I would handle it (I didn't want to seem like I couldn't handle my own child).

I had in my mind that she would already be home and that I would look like the great father and be happy and prove to her that I could talk to her w/o bringing up R stuff. Anyway since this was blown I started feeling down. I called her to see WHEN she would be home and she said a couple hours. This upset me a little since I was tired and really needed to go home and lay down. I latter called her and asked he if she could come home sooner because I was so tired. She hesitated...a lot. I immediately started thinking that she was with the OM and flipped even more. Later she called and said she was on her way home and I again I apologized for not being able to make it to the kids bedtime. She said that was fine she was just at the nail salon and had to wait until they were done. I felt like crap then. I really have to stop obsessing over the EA but it's so hard. It really could be just friends and not an EA.

Anyway that's the update. Tomorrow's is my day off from the kids so for better or worse I probably won't have any contact with her.

Lynn