Separation.......Kids...... and Distance Issues

[lynn97]

7,
I must say it was comforting to read your post. You are in almost the exact same situation as me. Of course I'm the H who moved out and my W wants the separation, and we started 2 days ago. We also have two kids.

While, I really don't have a suggestion on the distance issue, I will tell you the one thing I learned is YOU DON'T WANT TO BE THERE. I can't stress this enough. Especially this early on. I'm sure you thinking the same thing I was. That maybe if I'm there they will feel something for me, or they will want to talk. In my experience this doesn't happen and you only hurt yourself more for it.

Also rather than going dark I would do the LRT. Basically work on you and try not to think about him or your R right now, it's too early. Work on yourself to become a better person, someone you're happy with.

I'm very new hear so I'm sure others will have much better insight, but I thought I would share.

Lynn