It is hard in your sitch. The thought of another person interfering in your M is sometimes more than any single person should have to bear.
I don't know that I can offer any advice in this arena, except to say that these types of sitch's seem to work themselves out. It sounds strange, I know, but all I know is that when my H and I split, there was an OW. When I left the house, I think she thought that they were instantly going to both get divorced and live happily ever after. But in the process she made one fatal error, and that is she threw the A very passively aggressively in my face, and that ended pretty fast.
I think that I will defer to a wise friend who told me, give them enough rope, and they will hang themselves.
And, without sounding like a religious nut, believe in a higher power. Whatever your belief is, find solace and faith in it. Once I gave control to a higher power, my load became lighter, and I had an easier time having faith and seeing that God (or Allah, Zeus, Buddah, or whatever you choose to call Him) presents the opportunity for everything. If we push it the wrong way, then the opportunity fades. If we just go with the flow, everything falls nicely into place.
(((Feeling)))
I am sorry you are going through this, and I know this is one of the most painful things you can go through. Just remember to breath.
Lola
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
