Separation.......Kids...... and Distance Issues

[7 Year Itch]

So I need some help from you that have been here longer. Tomorrow marks day one of my separation (H is moving out to stay with a friend). This friend lives over an hour away. So when H comes to see the girls (which he wants to do 3 to 4 times a week) often due to the timing he gets off of work, and how far he will be from his place, he will only have like an hour and a half to visit them before their bed time, so it will need to be here at our house.

I want to go "dark" as I'm feeling very much in the final stages and am desperate, yet I have no idea how I do this with knowing I'm going to see him SO much due to our separation situation.

Ideas? We also live 1/2 hour from town, so it's not really an option for him to pick them up, and go somewhere for that hour and a half, he'd drive them an hour of it. See my dilemma?

D6 has t Ball practice Tuesday nights, and H wants to make that a night to see her. Well, tonight as we were dropping the bomb on the kids about his move tomorrow, D6 asked if H would ever be tucking her in at night anymore. And how would she give him butterfly and eskimo kisses? (yeah, I kept having to leave the room crying).

Anyway, he commented that he'd be here at bedtime on Tuesdays and would tuck her in (news to me). so I'm not sure what he's thinking, but I just want to give this separation the best chance possible, yet not be cold.

Man, this is all so calculated, it makes me feel icky.

Chris