He never spoke his mind, he never stood up for himself until this act. Passive aggressive indeed. He never once said he was unhappy, he went straight to divorce. We rarely fought. Everyone but him, me included, thought we were a happy, strong couple. But inside this rage, anger and disgust built and built until he couldn't make it right again, he didn't want to make it right again.
OK, this is eerie. I think we are married to the same man. Seriously. This is my exact sitch, and for me, I think a huge reason why I'm having such a hard time coming to terms with this. I was never invited to the fight. Never told, "I'm falling out of love with you" or " I'd like us to go to counseling". Nope..... I planned a sitter for us to go on a date night, and our date night ended up being the Bomb, of "I don't love you anymore, never will again, I'm done. Divorce time".
I was flabbergasted. Seriously. And I don't know about you, but I have so much anger building from it. He still focuses on what "I" did to him, and yet takes NO responsibility that it NEVER had to get this far, if he had just opened his mouth and told me how he felt.
It's just mind boggling. Sorry, didn't mean to take over your thread, I just see SO many similarities in our stories. And like you, I'm very much feeling defeated and that DB isn't going to work for me. I'm still going to try it, but he's just so stubborn and resolved too.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
