I was just paying some bills online and noticed in my account summary that it looks like H stopped and picked up a bottle of wine and a "take and bake" pizza when he spent the night with OW Thursday. She lives on a horse farm near the west side of the furthest west suburb of our city--no other reason he'd be picking up pizza miles and miles away from home.

On one hand, this is going to be fairly easy to track; I don't think H even knows that online banking is fairly specific. I don't plan on letting him know any time soon; it's his own fault for never taking any financial responsibility. So it appears that the EA is now a PA, which I knew was just a matter of time. It still hurts, tho.

HOW DO I COPE WITH THIS??? And still DB??? Yeah, I know the statistics, I knew this was going to happen, I knew it would get worse before it got better. Those are all intellectual; this hurts on a gut level. This is my husband--the man I supported while he got his master's degree and clinical residency so he could be a chaplain, the man who is working toward being an episcopal priest, and he's sleeping with a woman who practices Wicca who he left his family for because he believes they're meant to be together for life!!!!!!! I wonder if they said some kind of Druid grace over the pizza....

This is just nuts!!!


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012