I've never planted astilbe. I planted rudibeckia, echinacea, and african daisies - big bunches of them, along with zinnias and sweet allysum. And a couple of artichokes for color, texture, and food! I just moved last month, so I don't really know what the light & existing plants will do. But there are a lot of ratty roses right now. And some nice fruit trees - lemon, apricot, orange - and an almond tree.
What would it accomplish if she heard my side? Well, what I'd like to have happen is that she suddenly flings her arms around me, I pull her close, and we sink to the floor as our hands and mouths begin to explore ... but that won't happen. I guess i feel like she's boxed me into a definition in order to justify herself and I don't like feeling misinterpreted. I don't think it'd change her mind, but it might help us be friends in the future.
I said I wasn't sure if we ever had compromise because she's not a compromising type. I mean, yes, she did compromise. But her way of compromising was to do things her way without expecting me to help. In other words, she had an opinion of how things should be and she wasn't very accepting of other opinions. The compromises in the relationship were usually done by me. At work, the people I manage may not do things the way I like, or I may not agree with the approach they choose, but I think it's important for the team that everyone has input. So I'm usually open to new things - within reason, of course.
I'll have to pick up a copy of Richard Bach - I can't remember specifics. Only broad brush strokes. I'm afraid most of my reading these days is for school.
