I am so impressed with you. I am sorry that H is acting like he is in an intensive training program for DAM !!!
It sounds like it could be REALLY helpful to not always be available and to clearly enforce boundaries. It seems like almost all of the irritation you are posting about is boundary-related.
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I didn't say it with "emotion" or anything.. just stated that next time a call would be nice.. but then of course he got a little defensive and stated he was so busy the day just got away from him.. he didn't even eat anything all day... all of which is NOT MY PROBLEM!
Other than that, he came and reheated dinner. Then we took D2 to DQ for ice cream. When we arrived he turned to me and said "What are you having my love?" One of the forms of endearment he used to say a lot but doesn't do really now.. so that could be a good thing.
I am wondering if maybe these two events are related? you standing up for yourself and your boundaries, and then him calling you "my love"? Might be worth tracking the data as an experiment.
I LOVED the dialogue where you said: I have yoga at 3 pm. MM!! do it, do it, put your back into it!
It kind of reminds me of something I realized after last weekend's meeting with B. Basically like, whooo knows how TF long this is going to take, so it is just more important than ever for me to have my own things going on. just like your 3 pm yoga classes!!!
I am very impressed with your financial goals.
ALSO, "we are a family even if we're nonfunctional right now"?? plus the "my love"?? those sound MEGA POSITIVE TO ME!!!!
((((WHERE)))) keep rockin out, you glamorous redhead diva soul singer!
