""I have asked myself this exact same thing. When is it your turn. Realistically no relationship is 50/50. Still doing all the WORK in a relationship makes you feel so tired after a while. ""
I'm only speaking for me here. I put all the life & energy & work into our relationship for years & years & years, & I was EXHAUSTED.
I think that in my sitch it's almost payback time right now, or me simply resting & recovering. I'm sitting back at times watching & waiting to see if he's learned how to put forth energy & effort & life into the R. He gets a gold star for effort, but he's still learning the energy & life part. But, I have realized that if I continued to do it all, he didn't have to. I enabled him for years, that's my fault. I take responsibility. I just assumed that if I gave 150%, so would he. He assumed that if I was giving 150%, everything was hunky dorey.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
