Hi Girl From Impanema! I see you write in other peoples threads, but how are things between you and H going?
Did you know that my Beavers are playing at your Grizzlies this Friday, Sat and Sun? Tonights Friday the 13th event with fireworks sounds fun! Does your H like baseball?
Thank you for stopping by. I haven't updated because I've been busy thinking about my situation and what you all said about the sexy time issue. My husband did another 'drive by' Thursday night and then promptly went back downstairs to sleep on the couch. I don't think I want to tell him I'd rather not, because I don't want to push him away. However, I think I will tell him I love that time with him and would prefer if he stayed upstairs in our bed afterwards. Otherwise I end up feeling a bit used.
Tomorrow I'm kayaking at Shaver Lake. I'm excited but a little sad. This is something my husband and I used to do together. We'd go hiking in Yosemite, camping at Mammoth Pools, fishing in the San Joaquin... just makes miss the way things were before the ugliness entered our relationship. We used to be such great friends.
Is my fabulosity outweighed by my flaws?
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
We all have stuff we can work on to make ourselves a better person.
One thing I've learned is that if someone is blaming you for their unhappiness and not doing any work, they're not looking in the mirror to see the truth.
Just got back from doing a 2.5 mile float with lots of rapids in cold water and not so warm temperatures. Brrrrrrrrrrrrr!
Another 'drive by' around 5:00 am... I didn't mention that I'd prefer he stayed upstairs because I wanted to wake up, make some coffee and go hang out with the OM (I'll call him Mister B from now on).
My husband worked all day yesterday (he should be finishing his project by July 1) and was very quiet when he got home. I was feeling a little irritated that he doesn't interact with me more, but his project requires creativity and critical thinking and I'm sure he's been very drained. Or, he just has nothing to say to me... he's pretty friendly with the dog and cat - even Mister B. As limited as his interactions are with me, he has gone out of his way to please me during his drive by's. It's all very confusing. I'll wait and see what happens after the completion of his project.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Another 'drive by' around 5:00 am... I didn't mention that I'd prefer he stayed upstairs because I wanted to wake up, make some coffee and go hang out with the OM (I'll call him Mister B from now on).
That's funny GFI! I miss the drivebys!!! I think that's funny you call him the OM--hopefully people have been following your thread, so they aren't as shocked as I was when you first mentioned your OM!!!
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My husband worked all day yesterday (he should be finishing his project by July 1) and was very quiet when he got home. I was feeling a little irritated that he doesn't interact with me more, but his project requires creativity and critical thinking and I'm sure he's been very drained. Or, he just has nothing to say to me... he's pretty friendly with the dog and cat - even Mister B. As limited as his interactions are with me, he has gone out of his way to please me during his drive by's. It's all very confusing. I'll wait and see what happens after the completion of his project.
That sounds good, and how mature & understanding of your to realize your H is under stress. (I haven't always been that way myself)!!! It sounds like your H still cares about you to do that. I hope it all works out when his project is over!!!! Karen
Thanks, Karen. My thread is quite boring so I try to spice it up with talk of the OM. I do love the old guy. Yesterday I noticed he's missing some teeth. I've been giving him as much love as I can because I'm worried about him. I finally convinced the woman he lives with to have him checked by the vet - he goes in on Monday.
About my the completion of my husband's project... I'm a little worried that he'll drop the D-bomb on me when he's finished. I don't have any concrete evidence, but it's the realist (or pessimist) in me that leads me to think that might be the case. I found out OW is moving out soon (but she and her boyfriend still do lots of things together). Sigh.
Hope you find some happiness today, Karen. I'll be thinking of you.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
How was the kayaking ? I hope you have had a day as beautiful & wonderful as you !
Hugs (can't wait for Jamaica, but tell your OM he's not invited
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
