Back to square one

[bluerain]

Hi WDID,
Im not sure I would tell your H, if your marriage isnt strong enough it might not survive, you wouldnt do surgery on a patient with the flu if it wasnt absolutely necessary. I think you need to focus on reconnecting somehow with your H, and disconnecting from the OM, right now. I think that sometimes if you set problems aside and focus on making your relationship strong, the problems will dissolve on their own, every sitch is different, but Im not sure I would tell him, at least not right now. I also agree that you need to seek your validation from within yourself, figure out how you can feel good about you, someone might be able to temporarily make you feel good, but until you can do that yourself, you are looking for something that no one can give you. I think that your integrity and strength that you showed posting here is a good place to start!