As Stargazer pointed out, apparently going after professional help from a doctor is out. I hope I didn’t offend by my suggestions; it’s just that many of us are getting so desperate that we are wondering if there is something crazy, something under-considered that could bring hope to our starving relationships.
I know that I could never love another woman with the depth that I love my wife but, sadly, I may not be able to handle living with her if she doesn’t become more williing to work on relationship issues that are important to me. It’s not so much about willingness because if I could hang on I would, or will. It’s about the damage incurred from living in an extended state of frustration, sadness and depression related to my spouse’s selfishness. It's the question of the meaning of life and wondering what's the point of living with so much unhappiness. I don't care what anybody says, it is not healthy to stay in this state for too long. I think many of us here have gone way past our expiration dates and are spoiling.
I have struggled to comprehend the perplexities of this problem for years; it is wearing on me, as it is on many of us here. Is there really any answer? Is there really any hope? I don’t want to wait until I’m ready to die to realize that I wasted my life’s joy in desperation for something that is simply not achievable. I can’t think of anything I wouldn’t do for her if she could just tell me what is missing for her. But again, I can’t even discuss that there is a problem or she will "fix" my problem by saying adios. It feels like being alone with someone else is more painful than being alone by yourself.
How is something so beautifully natural, so deeply gratifying, so difficult to achieve?
