OD--so glad you are on. I've been on your thread alot and it took this to finally have me start again.

I DEFINITELY need to express my feelings more. He even said that on Thursday when he was comforting me.

H works so much, I don't think she has any idea that he is seeing me. I'm sure he tells her he is hanging out with a friend or something. I'm sure he takes his wedding band off with her. The only thing that is certain is that I'm still married to him (but, he probably uses our house as a reason why we are still married).

The problem that I have w/ H is that there has been NO change. He has been taking his wedding band on and off since before I found out about OW. Still doing the same thing. Nothing is different.

I feel like I need to make a decision b/c I love him still.

H & I, both 32, together since 18.
*M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08
* Agreed to D 6/09...very hard
*D 8/10
* At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF