Maybe the reason she "sleeps elsewhere" is because she is not getting it from you? It's pretty common knowldedge that women want a man who behaves in male ways.
Not tolerating extreme disrespect and your wife having sex with other men is not "Alpha". It's just normal male behavior. Ignoring it and giving it a denial name like "sleeping elsewhere" doesn't make you patient and understanding. It makes you a submissive doormat. How many women are attracted to that?
Again , hard truth, like it or not. Are you posting here so people can tell you have a nice weekend dancing and to validate your inaction or do you want change. You seem to dismiss any real advice that doesn't validate your submissive, do nothing exhistance.
As to a previous post , yes I have read all of your posts. If I could scream it through the keyboard I would. DO SOMETHING!!
You think she will wake up one day and see all of your changes. In reality you are being the opposite of what she is crying out for, you to step up and play the man in this relationship.
You even get the same advice from your shrink about being a conflict avoider, but you know better right ?
How does the conversation go when she doesn't come home at night anyway ? You've never really addressed this. You gloss over it like it doesn't matter. This is the root of her disrespect and you seem to avoid it and hide from it. I'm gonna take a wild guess and say she does not find this trait attractive.
