Is this a strange reason for a Separation?

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Thank you all for the reply. I really appreciate it, it helps.

[quote=lynn97]I had a huge setback today at our meeting. I ended up breaking down and asking about her EA, talking about our relationship, everything I'm not supposed to do in LRT. I did manage to apologize for my actions, but I messed up pretty bad.

Everyone is human, we all do things we 'know' we're not suppose to do. Give yourself a pat on the back for the apology, recognizing that you made a mistake, learn from it and move on. Just out of curiousity though, what was her reaction to this?

One other question. We are supposed to talk R on a specific day. I'm wondering if I should only talk if she wants to, and if she doesn't I should leave it at that?

The talk on the specific day was her idea was it not? If she wants to talk about it and you feel you can do so (which to me means both listening & sharing) in a way that is productive, (what ever that means to you), then let her talk her emotions of it out first!!

When you have heard her all the way through, validated, THEN ask her if she is able to listen to your POV all the way through... if she is not, then you'll have to decide if you want to keep listening without sharing back.

This is what worked for my H & I early on. I needed to have him hear me without the expectation that I had to hear him (at first). Not sure what your wifes expecations are. Your milage may vary.