Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

ping,
let me read about your sitch a bit more.

But to answer a few of your questions.. I'm not sure I have let my anger be gone yet. I have given some of it different names...
bitterness, disappointment, hurt, sadness, betrayal, shame, patronized... each of those need to be dealt with individually.. some of them are taking longer than others.

I am righteously angry still, mostly about how his abusive langauge and work-a-holism has affected our children and their expecations of their future lives and parenthood (our son, who is 18, recently told me he does not want to have children).

Our 13 year old daughter shared when her & I were discussing her future plans, that she did not want to do too much college (beyond a BA) because it was too hard with kids, jobs, and all the chores that Mom's are expected to do.

Are those POV by my kids ONLY because of his actions, no.. however I believe, my POV, they play a large role in them.

Reading the 5 langauges of apology has helped me release some of these emotions & forgive him, ONCE he recognized his roles & repsonsibility. I'm not sure how long I would have hung onto the resentment if he had not taken responsibility. Probably a lot, lot longer.

i'm not sure yet, what I'm open to with H. Reconcile? Right now I'm working for friendship and I'm not shutting the door for his changes to make a difference to me. Baby-steps.

Thanks for stopping by my thread and sharing.