I would follow his lead...if he makes no contact then let him be...if he contacts then answer... Sometimes those who don't let anyone get close have BIG issues in the past that were not dealt with...sometimes they are horrific things as in my H's case...I knew there was abuse when we married and I knew it was bad (mostly on his sister) but I had no idea how bad and how much it had involved him because he shut it out...unfortunately when MLC hits all those "stuffed" memories have a way of coming back to haunt them... My H was actually afraid of what he might be capable of doing...he started to believe that he could become like his father and those that had abused him and his siblings...he had never ever been abusive to me or the kids...actually he was the more reasonable one when dealing with the kids and still is... I think your H might be hitting a time in his life where he is identifying parts of himself with his father and the abandonment issues are coming forward...give him time...this might work in your best interest... For yourself...do what you can to keep busy...make plans for YOU to take time out for yourself...take the best care of yourself that you ever have...build yourself emotionally (I am also a sensitive one)...and be ready to be the strong should H come to you again...because there is usually more to be rebuilt then just a R/M...they have to rebuild themselves and are usually very much an emotional mess at this time...
