Still thinking. . . . I think that one of my big problems with letting go is the sense of failure. Even when I can get my head around the emotional aspects of all this and recognize that H has his own issues to deal with, I recoil when I think of our M actually failing. I can recognize that it took both of us to get to this place and that it wld take 2 to heal our M, but the feeling of failure can't be shared. The fact that he shares in it does not lessen my burden. I just can't accept failing at this - it's the most I've ever invested of myself and I feel lessened right now. I wonder how others get past this feeling. I guess I know what I need to focus on in next C session. . . . .
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now