Does a WAW want you to fight for them?

[HOPEFULinCALI]

I agree with Jane on the point that when I walked away I was done. At that point I had lost all hope that my M could be saved or that my H would ever go to therapy. I didn't want my M to fail but I felt I had no other option.

I can say that I wanted my H to stop persuing and stop pressuring me. He broke all the DB rules and it pushed me away. You can not convince her this way. This isn't abandoning her. Show interest in her as a friend not as a H. You are in stage 1. At this stage the goal is to reduce negative emotions. She is still resentful of you at this time.

You need to stop all R talks, saying ILY, calling her babe, persuing and pressuring etc. Show her change (i.e. 180) and work on yourself both in terms of the personal change and making yourself happy. All the best.