Serenity at last! Part V

[Astimegoeson]

You mean, you're not the source of all relationship evil?

I know I had a part in it. There were many times I might have neglected her without knowing it. I didn't take the time to connect with her on a level we were on when we were first married. I had it in me all the time. I can communicate at a deep level, I knew how to make her feel wanted, special, and attractive. She was butter in my hand when I romanced her. I became complacent over the years. I thought she would always understand my feelings without me reminding her. I provided a comfortable living and was/am a good Father to her only child. I was faithful, kind, and truthful to her. I thought my actions would suffice. It's the words and communication that were missing for her. Some where along the line, I neglected to remind her how special and wanted she was. Uggg, relationships can be a lot of work and are not for the weak. I now know she wasn't the norm when it came to affirmation, validation and constant attention. I believe her abusive alcoholic Father ruined her self-esteem, but it's something I didn't realize until it was to late. She tries to capture this self-esteem from multiple Men. I hate to use the term "high maintenance", but let's call the duck a duck if it's quacking and walking on webbed feet.

I know I'm better at recognizing the needs of a Woman, but I believe there are many out there that require more attention then others. Yes, I made many mistakes, but like my friend said, she's the type that will always have a man in her back pocket to give her the extra attention. When her ego is no longer stoked by her present relationship, she'll move on to the next. I know what NOT to look for in my next relationship and that is one of the pluses of this experience. I know I will make an emotionally stable and healthy Woman happy.

She flat out dumped the guy in prison when he was turned down for parole. If she was capable of giving something of herself to somebody, she would have waited the two years for this guy. After basically ignoring me for 2 and 1/2 years, she all of the sudden wants to reconcile. Of course, I now understand why. I come to find out OM #2 (actually #3 if you count the reconciliation attempt with me) has been pinning for her the last 2 years, but he would have to wait his turn for last. He doesn't know he's last in line though and he doesn't know he will have to give more than he's ever going to get in return. He couldn't do it the first time around, and he's not going to be able to sustain this time around either. Married 3 times and he goes back to his first failed M... He can't be all that sharp!