Hi Lin- Well,on the few occasions that he has opened up and talked about his childhood he said that when he was 8 his father abandoned his mother with OW for a year-then came back. He said he can remember being told"you are the man of the house now and must take care of your mother never upset her" So he has not been able to express his feelings in case he hurts people. Well, thats his take on it. Actually he is an extremely private formal sort of person who never lets his guard down. he said himself if anyone tries to get close he retreats.This has driven me nuts over the years as I am the opposite and wear my heart on my sleeve! Do you think I should maintain the silence(3 wks now) to give him space- I presume he is still ambivalent as he hasnt sent off the final divorce paper - or contact him like I usually do?
