Funny you should mention that about my 16 yr old and school. I was just sitting here thinking about that. In all honesty, if I thought H would really give a concerted effort to making the marriage work or if he even WANTED to stay with me (which he says he doesn't), I would love to move to GA with him and start fresh. It would be a good start for a new life for us. A new Post, a new area where no one knows us and we have no negative history, a new MOS for him (in computers which he is very gifted at)... But my S16, well, the high school in the town outside Bening is in a very bad neighborhood. My son is in honors classes and is doing really well with the baseball program, which is like a big family. Plus, the love of his life lives here and goes to school here. He already told me that if I moved to Georgia, he would not go and that he would move to Baltimore with his dad (my ex). I only have 2 years left with him before he goes to college and it is a horrible choice to make. Plus, I gave him my word. A hard thing for me to break. My H has said repeatedly that we will never live together so a couple of months ago, I started making plans for a life without him, which he kept telling me I "had" to do and accept that we weren't staying married. My kids have been through so much. H and I used to fight a lot, verbal stuff, but harsh nonetheless.
I am very torn. H is so quiet today. I can't figure out if he's depressed about being around me in our home, like it's suffocating him or going backwards or something. Maybe I'm just being too sensitive but for someone who says he's "having the time of his life", he doesn't seem very happy. I feel like he just wants to "erase" us and move forward with a new woman and a new family. His face lights up around our children though but he just seems so distant in general. I just tried talking to him about normal stuff, me going back to school, etc. and I just got a blank look at the tv in return. Typical stuff. Like before he moved out. The kids talk to him and I have to get his attention and say they said something. I don't know. I'm not in a position to say anything to him about it, though. **sigh**
