I'm new here and can't give any advice really but I wanted to let you know how similar your situation is with mine in some parts (the career and personality of our husbands, that is).
I'm a military wife also, husband is in Iraq right now. I started my thread with my story yesterday, been going through this for about a month now. What really strikes me is the moodiness of these guys. Mine is exactly the same way, you never know what you're gonna get. Also, the injuries with work, losing jump status because of it (mine too), stresses of combat, the complete detachment from the rest of his family, possible depression and bipolar disorder. Do we have the same husband? This has been going on for years. It's hard, I know. I feel for you.
One thing I wanted to talk to mention though. (I also have a 16 year old). Kids are more resilient than we think they are. Are you dead set against moving with your husband? I didn't think mine would make it, and she did much better than I thought. I was always catering to everyone's emotional needs, I never realized the move would go as well as it did because the whole thought of uprooting my child's life was devastating to me.
