Back to square one

[Hope4us]

I apologize WDID. You're correct. I am in pain and I shouldn't let that seep over to other's sitch's when I don't know the whole situation. For me it's just so frustrating in that we did have a good, passionate marriage until about the last year before my WW started her affair. I started traveling for work a lot and that plus a stressful relocation for work and bam, affair off and running.

I really do feel for you. Really. It's hard for us LBS' to hear sometimes, but there's two sides to every story. I think what bugs most of us is that we were never given any indication there was anything wrong before the affairs started and then our WAS' claim they've been unhappy for years etc. It's hard to know what to believe if there were never any indications prior to the affair. This doesn't sound like the case for you and your H. Given that you were separated it's obvious there were problems.

You're still not going to convince me the truth isn't the right thing, but it's your decision for what's right for you.

Good luck.