I am not even sure why I am posting to you. After your last thread, I didn't see any point b/c it seems like you are bound and determined to cling to the idea that life is over b/c B no longer loves you.
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I really thought we had the tools to make it work. Both coming out of a divorce and all. Both having read DB and DR....and failing in holding our marraiges together.
This sentence is exactly why BB R's are discouraged! Your R was founded on shared D pain. I suspect B has moved past that and discovered that perhaps the two of you have nothing else in common beyond the fact that the two of you are D and both have read DB/DR. It takes more than that to make an R - let alone make an R work.
You dated B. She was NOT your W. She was NOT your family. The two of you dated to see if perhaps an longer term commitment was possible.
I understand you have a dangerous job - however that does not explain why you are in pain 10 months later. And dating woman after woman is nothing short of a lame attempt to bandaid your pain.
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I know who I am. I know I offer good in this world.
One that offers good the world is NOT a definition of a person. That is a high sounding phrase that says nothing.
You have work to do on yourself FOR YOU. You will have to learn to live and be happy on your own before you are ready to share yourself with someone else.
I know my post is direct and a little on the harsh side. But I am not going to coddle you and encourage the perpetuation of the notion that just b/c B doesn't love you - life has no meaning for you 10 months after a dating R has ended.
