Today I announce (to myself mostly) that I'm going to do this 100%. I have been GALing but that's it.
I need to "really really" detach. I need to be friendly to W, but not start the convos.
I need to stop snooping or worrying about what she's doing because there is nothing I can do about it.
I need to focus on Abby and me, Abby and me and if I didn't mention Abby and me!
I vow to give this my all and whatever happens at the end I'll be better for it.
If I do backslide, I hope everyone here (whoever's following) will let me have it. I've got good advice here and haven't always followed it. I'm ready to go! _________________________
Well there you go.
I understand the myriad of feelings that could lead you to this point. Still...
You are now in roughly the same boat as she. Or was that your intent?
So what about the post above?
What's done is done. I think it was terribly stupid and indulgent, but that doesn't really matter.
What matters is you.
What now?
Is the post above still valid?
And by the way, comments like these
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she said "Abby will probably tell you that I had a friend over" and Abby said "Ricky!". I was like cool. Honestly, i'm beyond it effecting me (at least in public) and I said "cool. well if you guys are dating, that's fine by me." She was like no, we are friends. I said "with benefits" and she said no.
are both stupid and little boy like. In the first one you are telling her something that you CLEARLY don't believe (so you've lied) and in the second you act like a little pouting boy.
It's going to take a much more focused effort if you really have any hope/intention of saving this marriage.
This is a low point. Do you quit or pick yourself up and start doing it right?
And remember Abby.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
