Have a question about my sitch

[Bworl]

Keep pressing the cousins issue and watch her close up shop on you completely.

In many ways, this is similar to arguing with a walk away spouse about an OM. Trying to convince a spouse who is cheating that their cheatmate is a scumbag only irritates them and brings the two of them closer together.

You indulged your little boy inside when you made your ridiculous comment about the cousins not supporting the two of you. It was indulgent because all it did was feed your desire to whine and complain about something you know doggoned well you have absolutely no control over.

Tell me, do you really think so little of your wife that you believe she asks other people to make her decisions for you?

When things were good between the two of you, could her cousins have convinced her to leave you then?

Again, its indulgent on your part. What's worse is that it HURTS your relationship with her.

You haven't quite accepted just yet that the two of you are NOT together anymore. She doesn't need to ask your permission. In fact, I would guess she's not even interested in your opinion about who she hangs out with. Why would you even mess with struggling against her in areas like this?

Your focus is supposed to be on YOU first. Then on making sure that every interaction you do have with her is POSITIVE. Questioning her decisions, talking bad about her relatives (EVEN IF IT"S TRUE!), these are dumb, bad, stupid ideas.

Come on. You know better than this.

Let it go.

Let HER go.

Get a life and focus on you. Become a better man and husband. Make every moment the two of you spend together a piece of evidence to the fact that she should WANT to be with you.


The rest is OUT OF YOUR CONTROL

The sooner you ACCEPT this, the better off you will be.


Bill