I think you have really hit the nail on the head. This is a problem of lack of intimacy. And the problem is not just with Didi's husband but with both of them. Clearly, she withholds intimacy from him. Many people here are very concerned about her withholding truth. I am more concerned about the withholding of sex. They say without truth a marriage is a sham. I believe without sex a marriage is less than a marriage, I don't know if I would say it is a sham. But then I think the truth people are exaggerating too, because in every marriage there are some things you don't tell the other person, whether it's a purchase you made, or a speeding ticket, or the fact that the kid was lost for an hour in the afternoon. People don't like to reveal their faults to the other.
Do you know of counseling for intimacy? What kind of counselor do you seek out? At Retrouvaille, there is a section on intimacy. It is discussed, both on the weekend and in the Post sessions, but I didn't feel that either went very deep into the subject. How does one get instruction if this doesn't come naturally?
