WOW...I could have written your post...my H said the same thing...we did have a good love life up to the point he left but he claimed it was nothing to him...one thing I noticed is he was drinking when he was affectionate other wise it was just friendly like you describe. My H lost his career job and looking back I see that is where the MLC started...basically MLC is depression that is handled wrong... My H and I were seperated for nearly 2 years...I heard much of what you did...especially the fear of returning...not knowing if he would be able to be happy as husband and wife again...
I am happy to report that we are together again...happy...and have been for nearly a year now...he returned over two years ago but was a complete physical and emotional mess...it took lots of time and patience but now he is a much improved husband over what I had originally...
Understanding MLC is key in all of this...it helps you have compassion and empathy instead of anger and blame...getting on with your own life is important...even AFTER they return...I still do things for me that previously I never thought of doing...I lived for the family and my H...now I live for me and share that life with my family and H...this is much healthier!
