Always nice when a fellow country man joins the board, but I am sorry you find yourself here.
It is always sad when a long term relationship, all of a sudden, goes west. I have been married for 26 years, 6 months prior to the bomb, I have an eMail expressing what a strong marriage we had, oh well 3 years later, and no significant improvement.
From Strong Marriage, to bomb, only communicating with me by grunts, or eMail, to now a year long nothing. It is difficult, you would send Christmas and birthday cards to a friend you have known for 26 years, never alone have children together to being surgically removed from their life.
The stages you are looking for are here, Stages of MLC
However I would not place too much emphasis on them being stages, but more of symptoms of an overall depression.
This whole Thread has a lot of information of what you are dealing with, which helps, but not as much as getting on with your life - for you!
