I understood 2 or 3 things

[hopeful4her]

Do the stuff for you and the kids. Don't give a damn about your wife. The putting stuff in motion that you cannot control. Just control yourself, rop. Confronting will do nothing but upset you, upset her and push her away that much further.

Tell yourself good riddance to her. I realize it is hard, but you have been doing good, lately.

Some day, she'll figure out what she lost.

Is there a way to fight for at least equal custoday of your kids? Are you in a position to do that?

I have gotten my roomie to agree to 50/50 split. Just have to get stuff in writing.

Good luck, rop. I am trying to keep up with you, too. A lot going on in my life as you know.