It's wonderful that you're so open to focus on your wife's needs.
But don't forget who's most important..
Nope.. nope.. try again.
That's right..
YOU!
I made the mistake years ago sacrificing myself for my husband and family. It wasn't intentional.. I just figured I was strong enough to save and fix everyone.. that doing that 'fixed' me.
Guess what.. I died inside, starved and strangled.. didn't even know how to ask for help, much less have the energy to.