Matilda, and Piecing Friends, After our dance class, during the week, while people were chatting and gossiping, I noticed the dance teacher swoop over to my W and ask her a question. The two of them went off into a corner. I noted to a classmate, "I think there is trouble happening." He replied, "Trouble is their (women) middle name."
I strained to eavesdrop on the conversation. I think the dance teacher was asking about our sex life. I think my W was stating that there isn't one because I won't touch her. I can't be sure that this is what was said.
The simple advice is that I should speak-up and address the issue (intimacy) with my W. My therapist thinks I'm being conflict-avoidant. It's hard to know where the line is between patience and avoidance.
I think I'm still on the side of patience. I will have to see signs that my W wants to move forward. I don't think we can risk any more trauma or rejection in this area. I like to think that I'm working on building a foundation for intimacy and connection via the dancing and poetry, and will be better prepared to address it relationally when the opportunity presents itself.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
