Hi T Stick to the game plan and just show up at his concert. Play it cool. If you want to drop hints that you'd like to see him again before you leave NYC you have to be very subtle. Dont come on too strong now and undo all your good work. See how enthusiastic he appears when he sees you at his concert. If he wants to see you again he will ask how long you are going to be in NYC. I think you still have to be patient and wait for him to figure out that he would like to see you again, and for him to work out a way that he can see you. You are doing great!
I still haven't written him back in response to his email, but I woke up this morning and I got this email from B (sent at 1.46 am???) I'm sure you already have your stash, but just in case, I really like 1-800-CONTACTS for getting contacts for cheap. Maybe things have changed, but I got a huge supply when I lived in Boston, and I'm not even halfway through...
I mentioned to him when we were hanging out that I went to the optometrist and I didn't tell her that I had been wearing the same pair of 2 week disposable contact lenses for like, over a year. (My prescription expired & I couldn't get an appointment blah blah blah). I had totally forgotten that I had mentioned it to him.
And, my best friend in NYC can't go to B's concert with me on Mon. I asked another good girlfriend but I am not sure if she can make it either. I have a good guy friend who lives in NY who also likes bluegrass. He had a ginormous crush on me my last year in Boston and we hung out a lot during that time, it was almost like we were faux dating, but with no physical contact or emotional declarations. During that time B was extremely patient, but looking back I think the whole thing probalby weirded him out. Now said friend just started dating another woman and is totally over me, but still my friend. Should I ask him to go with me, or would it be better for me to go by myself, and avoid introducing the appearance any kind of competitive sexual vibes into the concert audience?
T,try to find somebody else to go with you. I wouldn't go alone. Think of some other friends I am sure you have, I can't get there fast enough.
I think todays email was the best you have had so far. Not because of the context of course. He didn't have to do it, shows the communication lines are open, and proves you did a good job making him feel comfortable to contact you. WAY TO GO!!!!! I think Essie gave you some great advice regarding hints etc. Be careful not to show you are extremely eager. Just that you are willing if circumstances allow it.
someone else, like someone else other than me, or someone else other than friend who used to be a threat to my R with B? I wish you could teleport to Manhattan and hold my hand
I totally agree with you about the email, it felt very caring and open, like ... he was actually concerned enough about my eyeballs to share the info with me.
Do I just not respond, and see him at the concert??? I NEED CONSTANT FEEDBACK :S
Someone else than this friend. You will feel awkward/worried about how it will look, he may feel weird.
I would say don't respond. I am not dead set about it after this email but still it would be interesting to see how he reacts. Oh, I would not respond to the last contact lenses email...
About a possible OP: ignore!!
I'll be there in a way. A little voice in your head, it will speak Greek but you'll know what it will be saying...
((((kalni)))))) thank you so much for helping me... I am trying to drum up another friend. You *will* be there... I just listen for a sultry sunny greek voice...!!!
Great news about the contact email! Definitely you need to take one girlfriend with you to BF's concert, and when you see him at the concert talk to him about the contact lenses (thank him and tell him that you appreciate it). The male friend is not such a great idea... I would fly to be with you too! Kalni and I are right with you in spirit!
If there is another OP (highly unlikely given the beard - ha ha) you still remain happy and upbeat - it doesnt affect you because you are wonderful!
thank you so much for your ideas. You are totally right, the male friend is not a good idea... as soon as I typed it out I thought if I was reading this I would say to that person, DON"T BRING THE MALE FRIEND!
I have one other girl friend I am waiting to hear back from. If she can't go I will probably brave it by myself. aich!!!
Tonight was our final performance of the festival and it went really, really well!!!!!
Just catching up- I think it's FAB that B contacted you about the contacts (laughing at my own joke there!)
I would e-mail him back, myself. Just so say thanks ever so much for passing that on and that you'll follow it up. And then I'd say see you at the concert or words to that effect.
My thinking is that becuase he's gone out of his way to contact you, you should respond in kind- keep communication open. If I mailed a friend information and she didn't reply and then just showed up at something the next day I'd find it a bit wierd. MWD says that if there is a positive step you should respond equally back (but not be overly enthusiastic). (Sorry to disagree with you guys, K and Ess!)
So glad the performance went well last night. YAY!!
