sg, thank your daughter for me. my friend was here when h made the call and witnessed the whole thing. when I hung up the phone she said, "I truly just witnessed a miracle!" we both cried. I CANNOT tell you the relief I feel.
I just want to say to everyone (lbs'rs) on the board something I have just learned the hard way. when h first dropped bomb, then I found out about the affair then he left, Of course I was focused on d and grateful for her, but I SO wanted h back and reunite our family. I thought there could be no greater pain than losing h.
WRONG. After what I just went through and the thought of losing d or getting very limited visitation, there are NO Words for THAT kind of pain. made the marriage stuff feel like getting a paper cut.
Now I'm not saying that it doesn't hurt anymore that h left, has ow, but this experience really put a lot of things into perspective for me. If you have yourkids with you or have a custody agreement that is working for you -- BE GRATEFUL!! Your children areliterally a part of you. even if our marriages don't work out, there is still love out there for us, but OUR CHILDREN cannot be replaced.
what a huge lesson for me. as crazy as this sounds, after going through this, I know I will be ok. I have d and that's all that counts. I WILL have love (romantic) in my life whether it's h (and who cares at this piont) or someone else.
when we are "left behind", at least for me, it's so hard to see this. but when you go through the terror of almost losing your child, it's like a huge cloud is lifted from your eyes and you see that your children are really your heart.
I'm so grateful to everyone on this board.
Go hug your kids today, they will get you through.
