separated on the shores of lake erie

[ms ladybug]

Hi Neil,
Welcome to the sep forum. It's not a nice place to be, but there are some great people here to help you along.

I'm not sure what your wife means by "proactive". In your state, is there a separation time period before you can divorce? That's the only thing I can think that she's thinking. Unless she's also trying to protect herself and the kids financially without having to get a divorce? That would be a good sign that she's not jumping straight to divorce.

Sorry your finding yourself here. I wish I could help more, but obviously I need to brush up on DR, because I did some major backsliding today. I guess we all do at some point.