I did hire a PI but they couldn't find out anything b/c OW was in TX & at the time I didn't know about her. While he was out mowing the yard one day, I figured out how to use his phone & that's how I discovered OW. Then every morning while he was in the shower I would go into his room & look at the phone. It was pretty scary at first but I became pretty good at it (I might have to change my profession)LOL. But that's how I found out that he thought his lawyer was on my side! Also found out about his job interview in TX & also when he would take vacation days.
My H did ask me if I hired a PI, I never told him b/c they really didn't do anything except run a report on this OW (that's how I found out she had been married at least 3 times) I just told him I did my homework. That was the night he cussed me out so he didn't go any further with that question.
I threatened to call the police on him that night b/c he was ranting & raving so much. My L told me if he did that I could call the police, my H said it would be his word against mine then he asked if I had the house bugged. Well, no I didn't but I did have a tape recorder on me. I was bad too, I guess! But at the time I really just had to look after me. My lawyer kept telling me that he had done me so dirty, he hadn't seen anyone do exactly like he had done before & he has been a lawyer for 50 years. Him & his paralegal both told me they thought he would call me back but not to take him back. They just don't know how I feel about him, well they do sort of b/c everytime I was in their office I was crying. I cried the day they were all celebrating that we had won, I didn't feel like I had won anything.
I'm so happy that your sitch turned out the way it did as I hope mine does too!!!! He once was such a loving, romantic, kind & caring person, with moral values. I hope that man will come back some day soon.
