As long as you are providing for the kids at the same level as BEFORE she quit her job, do not let it bother you.
I think the only thing that bothers me is that she is not truthful about how much OM is supporting her and she is pulling the pity thing to get spousal support. She is still driving the Cadillac he gave her and seems to have a lot of new clothes (and a ring from OM).
I have not given her any child support since we have split the checking so I imagine her L will try to get back support pay once child support payments are determined in the D settlement. I dont really have a problem with that, but would be furious to have to pay back alimony, much less any alimony.
