Hey, Longhaul: You're right, every couple who plans to be married should be given a course in Keeping Love Alive. It's too easy to take our spouses for granted. Still, don't beat yourself up over it. Forgiveness is a gift we can give ourselves. Give it to yourself, and if you're up to it, offer it to your spouse. When we realize we are imperfect people, married to imperfect people, forgiveness is an absolute must. Also, what you're saying, and others, too, is right. Get out on your own. Enjoy your life, and give yourself a pat on the back. At least he wanted to spend time with you. It may not fall into the catagory of fun, but it's time spent with you. So often we forget it's the little courtesies we do that spell love, and it's that time together that means love. Remember when you first met? You couldn't have enough time together. Even if you had nothing to say, or do, just being together was good! Take the baby steps, arouse his curosity. His interest will peak, and he will inquire about you. Remember, people are magnets. When you are attractive to yourself, and you like yourself, you can attract the interst of others, in this case, your spouse. And you're right about snooping. It often gets us no where, makes the other party mad, and makes us feel more down. It's like we're working to justify something, and really what we should be doing is working to make us closer to that other person. In other words, work to find a solution that works, rather than analize ourselves into paralysis about the problem. You're doing great! Keep up the effort! Sincerely, DoRight
