I also found that several heart to heart talks, open and honest with her answering many of my questions, PRIOR to her moving back in helped out as well. Laying the groundwork to better communication and lancing several pent up hurts if you will.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK