I hear ya!! and your not alone at all in how you feel about things...
glad to hear your gonna "get off your butt" (your words from a previous post) and enjoy life for you...I know it's hard to do..especially when part of what you want to do is enjoy life with h...but maybe if you're having fun enjoying your life with dd, h may want to join in...and if he doesn't well...after all it will be his loss wont it??