Soo, I was going to write up some comment about trying to "borrow trouble" as my h hadn't said a word about my creative money managing this week.
But nooooooooo. That would've been premature. See, I went with acting "AS IF". As if everything was fine. I'm new to the constraints on the budget of late and I screwed up with a purchase at a bad time. I thought about telling him up front, which would've actually allowed him to adjust his spending habits accordingly, but nope, didn't want to rock the boat.
Well, yes I know it was wrong. Conflict avoidance at it's finest. However, it did give me time to actually look at my behavior instead of focusing on the horrible way he handles it. I decided to spend my time thinking of how to have this conversation (because as much as I protest, this might happen again) in a more constructive manner.
Or at least one in which I don't get yelled at.
It would've gone better had I had this conversation this morning while I was helping him at work. Instead, I thought, it's Friday. We made it to payday. Maybe he won't look at the balance before he has a bunch of cash in his hand and that Friday-after-a-crazy-week-but-it's-over feeling goin' on.
I came home, poured a cup of coffee, sat down to log in and see how all my peeps are doin' when I get a phone call from H.
H: "Honey, did you open that statement from the bank that was in yesterday's mail yet?
M: "No... I must have been distracted.
H: "OH. I think there must've been new cards from the new branch that took over because mine isn't working right."
M: "Not working?"[pause] "Hang on. Let me get the statement out."
M: "Um, I really feel bad because I miscalculated and made those purchases for XXXX that cost XXXXX and I thought there was XXXX in the bank but forgot about XXXXX. I made a mistake and I'm sorry.
H: Silence. "Well isn't that just life." (frustrated/mad) M: "I'm sorry." H: "Talk to you later." (mad) H: Click
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So, the old me would've found a way to excuse my behavior by showing him how much money I saved him by making that particular purchase at that particular time. The old me would have the receipt for that 37" HD Flatscreen he decided we needed for the bedroom, right before Christmas, in my hand. That's just for starters. I never fought fair.
