I never thought of that. That very well may be the case. She did see him at work yesterday and who knows how that went.
Yes, I could be bearing the brunt of his actions. In any event, as I discussed w/ my DB coach, I'm going to be working on less and less contact and more invitations for her to open herself up emotionally.
I just sent off the following e-mail to her about last night's talk:
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Thank you for taking the time to express your concerns with me last night. I can understand your hesitancy for D to be w/ my family b/c of their behavior in the past. However, the past is history and the future is now. Forward is where the focus is as there is no going back. We both have D's best interests at heart at all times and she'll always be the priority in both of our lives. We're good parents and she is a wonderful child. Again, I'm glad to have had the opportunity to hear your feelings last night. Thank you for sharing and please know that I am always available to talk to you about these and other matters. All you have to do is ask.
I have to continue to acknowledge her feelings and show I can and do listen to her. The more she can open up her feelings and emotions, the better chance I have for her anger to maybe subside.
I do know that she hates the non-contact, so I'm going to do the non-contact thing w/ responses purly like the one I put above. That should help get me closer to my goal which is if I can't repair my M, then at least I can have a civil co-parenting arrangement w/ my W.
Again, only time will tell if this latest tactic will work, but I'll keep at it and keep you posted everyone.
