it seems to me that h is very very passive aggresive...
sure I'll start making my own lunches to take to work...but I'll never actually make one..I'll play to tired but I'll leave the empty lunch bag on the counter just begging you to do it...
sure I'll say that I'll do my own laundry but I'll conveniently decide it's time to do it when you've started doing the rest of the laundry and I'll just leave my hamper in the bathroom with the rest as if I will actually do it myself...
sure I'll take the responsibility of getting son to bed but I wont actually put him to bed on time...I'll continue to work out in the yard till god knows what time keeping son up till let's see tonight it's 10pm...and you can't do anything about that one because son has become so accustomed to showering with me that he feels you giving him a bath and putting him to bed on time is a punishment!
I'm tired of this...
I can deal with doing his laundry..it's no big deal what's another two loads at least I don't have to put his stuff away...I don't mind making his lunch...in a way it's kind of evil why I prefer to just make it..that way I know he's not going to eat lunch with ow...but this keeping son up is agrivating...
first off it's no good for son!! who then is cranky the next day!
second it's no good for me for two reasons...
1. heck I've got kids underfoot all damn day it would be nice to have at least a couple hours before I go to sleep where there aren't any around and before long an 8pm bed time will be tough to enforce on him.
2. if he doesn't get enough sleep the night before it makes my running errands tough as he's more prone to be unwakeable after he falls asleep in the car on the way to the supermarket or wherever it is I need to get to.
3. it just irks the crap out of me
4. it just irks the crap out of me
I do understand that h has stuff that needs to get done around the house but shouldn't his sons health come first..shouldn't he want his son to be sleeping soundly peacfully rather than hanging around waiting??
I did have a conversation with h about this last night...obviously it didn't sink in...tonight after comming in from working in the yard at oh I don't know let's just say it was after 9 h then takes his bowl of chili with him to the puter to check the weather...then decides to tell me he's going up to the bathroom..his nightly dump and smoke routine before the shower...I get irritated as it's now 9:45 I've cleaned the family room and have shut off the tv and am ready to sit and start reading my chapters for the emt class tommorow night (not like I'll have any time to do it tommorow) and h informs me he's going to the bathroom...mind you that's a 15 min adventure in itself (you guys and your dumps what the hell is the big deal...sit push it out wipe and be done with it..why do you like to linger with it??) I get irritated mention our talk from last night h gives some look and some response that I just didn't care for I decide to take son for a bath instead of waiting (not like I'd be able to read any with him around anyway) that of course sets son in tears...I get the looks from h...and off they go...grrrrr!!! now I don't have the right mind to do any reading and really am now feeling like a pathetic little wife living in her h's world..as long as she keeps quiet and doesn't disturb his world all is well.
