Have court today for my child -- pray for me

[NikB]

((((Mary)))) Thinking of you today. Ellie had some awesome advice for you (as always, Ellie ).

I wanted to re-post sgctox's last post on your old thread because I thought it was great and worth repeating.

(from sgctox) OK, Maryangela--

Do you see how this goes? Can you step back and take a look at the big picture?

This is what we talk about ACT AS IF in Michele's book.

If you ACT AS IF he is going to get custody.....you freak out and make it a self-fulfilling prophesy.

ACT AS IF you are in control of yourself and the situation. Eat. Nurture yourself. Visit your daughter.......lobby against so little visitation..........not in an omg way, but how it isn't good for your daughter.

When you are with your daughter...........be a lot of fun for her. Don't worry.

I want you to start a NEW THREAD, with a POSITIVE mantra.

I want you to show you are in control on your thread. When someone tells you to calm down, don't go on and on about why you're still worried. TELL US what steps you are doing to nurture yourself. PRACTICE ON US......It will show up in real life on your face and your demeanor. YOU CAN.