Just tried to check in on you, D - perhaps you're still writing? I'll check again later.
I too don't feel like there's much more I can do to GAL that would also be authentic and something I intend to carry on with. I work, volunteer, exercise, garden, spend time with my kids - and putting pretty much everything else before my H is one of the reasons we've ended up where we are.
Many of the things that I've done have been directed towards changing his perception that I don't care about him and I do think that's working. What's not changing is his feelings of not being 'in love' with me, which I interpret to mean that he doesn't feel any desire to be with me, doesn't miss me when I'm not around, has more fun with other people than with me, etc. This is incredibly difficult for me and I have such a hard time with the feelings of rejection and sadness. However, I went for a walk this morning and then spent some time in the garden, and have sorted out my thoughts a bit.
I'm going to say "What I meant to say yesterday was that I totally get that you're an adult and can do what you want (the work thing). You are also entitled to invite or not invite who you want."
Despite the fact (or probably because of) that we had sex this morning, he is even more distant now and rather irritable too, so I'll wait until later today to make my little speech. I'm ignoring his attitude and just being cheerful, at least on the inside.
He just left, I got a peck with closed lips. Better than nothing, I suppose.
