Full disclosure works for some people. But there can be a downside to it also. When one person confesses their wrongdoings to the other, the burden of the wrongdoing is lifted from the person who confesses onto the other person. That doesn't make it go away. The offender now feels better for confessing, but the innocent spouse feels terrible. The real question is: does that help?
You have a lot of work to do to get OM out of your life and build the relationship with your husband. If you focus on that you will know what you need to do.
