I have changed the locks (he was not happy about that) and I did pack up most of his clothes and now use his dresser for my off-season clothes. I did expose the affair to his parents and he then took it upon himself to tell his siblings. I have thought about exposing the affair to OOW parents (I just got that info), but have been holding back because I know it will piss him off. I have tried to treat him as more of a friend/room mate, although it is difficult because I love him so damn much. He is still paying for all of the household bills, but I have to still pay for groceries, gas and incidentals for the house and kids and for repairs to my vehicle. I am usually strapped. He knows I have consulted an attorney and so has he. I realize that he has the best of both worlds right now. I have been GAL (spending way more time with friends, dropped 46 lbs (and still trying to lose a few more), exercising, etc. I want to make myself the better choice, but am concerned that if I do expose to OOW parents, or let him know that I am aware that he is flying to CT to spend 4 days with her, that my actions will be to the contrary. I want to take the high road and I struggle with the fact that those actions seem vindictive. I realize I am fighting for my marriage, but my H stated that he was "emotionally checked out of our marriage a long time ago and OOW was not in the picture until after he was emotionally gone from our M" I realize she is not the CORE problem, but she is, part of the problem now. I'm thinking of filing for CS, but need to make sure that I am doing the best thing, financially, for me and the kids.
Me 41 H 42 T 21 yrs M 16 yrs S15, S11 Bomb 1: Not happy 09/06 Bomb 2: Not in Love 02/08 Bomb 3: Admits to EA, poss PA? with OOW 03/24/08 Moved out 04/11/08 (our 16th wedding anniversary) Go Bills! Go Sabres!
