Quote: if h is asleep when I get home...how will I have fun??? he is not the wakeable kind...at least not all the time.
Pick your window of opportunity, LL. If H is already in bed, gently kiss him to let him know you're home and see if he is in any way responsive. Hopefully he'll do more than just grunt and shift a little - he may even ask how your class went earlier!
OR - he may be willing to let you ravish him! Not to get too personal - but would you being the "aggressor" be a 180 for you?
Glad to see that your EMT classes are going to start. If you're as determined with them as you have been at building a better M, you'll be at the top of your class!