I feel like I do allow the whole drop by family.. which doesn't feel too good.
Well H did come over yesterday. So much for spending the day though. He got here at 6pm. No call beforehand or anything saying that his schedule changed.
I know I'm not supposed to point out to him that he should have called but I did anyway. I didn't say it with "emotion" or anything.. just stated that next time a call would be nice.. but then of course he got a little defensive and stated he was so busy the day just got away from him.. he didn't even eat anything all day... all of which is NOT MY PROBLEM!
Other than that, he came and reheated dinner. Then we took D2 to DQ for ice cream. When we arrived he turned to me and said "What are you having my love?" One of the forms of endearment he used to say a lot but doesn't do really now.. so that could be a good thing.
Followed up with him to see if he heard back from his friend about painting the house.. he hasn't. If he doesn't hear back soon I'll just go with the quote I got from someone else (problem is I KNOW his friend would do it for a more reasonable price).
I mentioned to him that when D2 and I move that I would appreciate it if he would pick her up and take her to school in the mornings. Not all mornings but a few times a week because I'm sure there are yoga classes available before work. He said it wouldn't be a problem and sounded like a good idea.
I know that I can work and take care of her on my own.. and with much less stress when I move.. but the fact is that he is her father and he should share in some of the responsibility and lighten my load somewhat.
Other than that we also discussed money.. and how I look forward to getting a new job but that I want to find one that pays well. Because although he shares in the responsibility of financially taking care of D2 he should not be financially responsible for taking care of me. He said that he doesn't mind. And I said that I do. I look at the extra money he makes through his business as his money and he shouldn't be having to spend it on me. He said that he views it as family money.. not his money... and that we are a family "even if it's currently dysfunctional".
